I have to give my HUGE thanks to Christine M for introducing me to Linnex Heat Stick. (I think poor bitch-boy is rather less thank full.) It was quite hard to get hold of but it seems to provide as uncomfortable a ‘burn’ as any Deep Heat product but seems to also last much longer.

I think over the Xmas break, Nurse Nasty will have to run a very ‘scientific’ experiment to compare how long a Linnex stick application lasts compared to an application of the Deep Heat Muscle rub.  Bitch-boys sobbing seems the same with either so the experiment will be about duration. My guess at the moment is the Linnex stick lasts two to three times longer.

I provide very detailed accounts of Nurse Nasty sessions in my published Journals, volumes 1, 3 and 11.

The product reminded me of a letter I read many years ago in a Madame magazine. A young woman seemed to have an objective to have as many of her girlfriends’ boyfriends in chastity and suffering dickie-discipline as she could; as well as her own poor boyfriend of course. She visited one such girlfriend, and the boyfriend was bound and helpless and free of his chastity device. The young woman in question produced from her handbag, where she always kept it, a Ralgex stick. She calmly ran the flame of her lighter over the head of the stick before applying a very thick coat of the now softened Ralgex  to the males dickie; and many tears and much sobbing was the result. Of course, the Ralgex stick is no longer available but the Linnex Stick appears to be its perfect replacement.

My thanks again to Christine M.

One enjoyable pastime I have engaged in is adding colour to the submissive’s genitals. This can be the shaved labia or the shaved cock and balls. Stripes using Henna can be fun and lasts a number of days. I have also used washable felt pens and food colouring for stripes or a total colour change of the area in question. Red, green, blue or orange can be fun. However I have a question as all of the colouring materials I have used so far have one problem or another. Either too dull or they can come off and stain precious fabrics.

Has anyone used a bright product for colouring skin which does not have the potential to rub off onto precious fabrics and stain?

I did buy lockable pacifier straps for each of my submissives. bitch-boy’s is exactly as shown in this post. Play-toy’s is plain pink. I can report my submissives each HATE their pacifier straps; so they are a great success.

I must admit the Linnex stick was meant to be an Xmas present but I did not have the willpower to wait until Xmas to use it on bitch-boy. (I will be reporting before the end of the week on my experiment.) Play-toy however has yet to experience the Linnex applied to her nipples, but her time will come.

I bought bitch-boy a new set of felt pens for his colouring-in with his dolly. This is his third set and his first colouring-in book is still a few pages from completion. I dread to think how many hours he has spent colouring-in this first book with the help of his dolly. Such a distressing combination of deep humiliation and terrible tedium. It must be literally hundreds of hours so far and as soon as it is finished, he will be starting on the next of the other six identical books I have bought him. It must be awful for him to know there is no end in sight for literally years to come. This prospect must be strengthened in his mind by my recent utterly uninhibited masturbation while he sits on the floor at my feet and colours-in. When he has been at his colouring-in for an hour plus, (particularly if it is the second or third day of it),  I get overwhelmed with arousal at the extent of my power and cruelty and, sitting on the sofa, I pull up my skirt, pick up my massager, and bring myself off; while he sits on the floor continuing his colouring in as though nothing is happening – which he knows is what he must do.

And of course, adding to my arousal, I know this perverted, decadent, exhibitionist act also sends him the distressing message that I have no need of him for my sexual release. (He knows that over the last couple of months my orgasms, through masturbation, have reached new heights of amazing intensity. I am not sure why but I think it is my evolution to a state of zero inhibition and zero guilt at how I behave. I am guessing that, although I did not realise it, there were some fragments of inhibition and guilt holding me back; but they have now gone!)

I also bought some Salivax pastilles which I have yet to try but I have been assured while I  suck them will produce large quantities of spit, for me to deposit in bitch-boy’s or Play-toy’s open mouth. Or perhaps dropped onto my boot to be licked clean, (and the floor should it drip there).

Finally I bought some itching powder. I have read that pulling back the foreskin, liberally applying a generous quantity of the powder, and then returning the foreskin over the knob-head induces a miserable state of distress in a male whose wrists are bound and who cannot touch the offending item to provide some respite. Another experiment I will report on. Play-toy will also experience some application to the nipples or perhaps the crack of the butt.

Isn’t Xmas such a wonderful time!

I have always had in my links section, a link to Petticoating Discipline Quarterly. A site which is updated once each month on the 2nd. Over the years the letters published on the site have been a huge source of inspiration to me for ideas of humiliation for bitch-boy. Up until this month, I have been disappointed with the content of the site for over a year but this month the letters are very enjoyable indeed. Worth a read I think.

Some of the significant ideas for me from the site have included;  mincing, the fretting pose, playing with dollies, sissy maids, having 7 identical colouring-in books for bitch-boy, etc. The list of very significant things is almost endless.

My published journals.

I mentioned in a previous post, my huge thanks to Christine M for introducing me to the Linnex Heat Stick. Poor bitch-boy is rather less thankful! LOL. I promised that over the Xmas break, Nurse Nasty would run a ‘scientific’ experiment to compare how long a Linnex stick application lasts compared to an application of the Deep Heat Muscle rub roll-on.

I ran the experiment over two separate days just to be sure that the one embrocation product did not piggy back on the effects of the other. Bitch-boys sobbing / whimpering was of the same intensity during both experiments and I have concluded the ‘burn’ sensation is just about the same with either product. HOWEVER the durations of effect are quite different.

I applied each product to the same areas of the shaft. One product on one day and the other on the next day. I lightly rubbed into a area about the size of a large postage stamp on the top surface of the shaft and on the underside of the shaft. The Deep Heat Muscle Rub roll-on took about one to two minutes to begin its ‘burning’. The burning lasted about ten minutes. I tried the Linnex stick on several consecutive days. The Linnex stick took about five to seven minutes to begin its ‘burning’. The burning lasted about thirty to forty minutes! With either product the ‘burn’ seems to fade quickly at the end over about one to two minutes.

On another point of interest, Christine has informed me that applying a little heat to the Linnex stick just before use, enables the option of applying a thicker coat of the product. Given the small area I covered compared to what is possible, I have given myself plenty of escalation potential with bitch-boy. To quote Christine, ‘…..I apply a very liberal coating all over his shaft and knob. I take a few minutes, relishing the apprehension in his eyes as I rub the stick round and round, and up and down, all over the shaft; then round and round the knob, ensuring the entire appendage is thoroughly coated with many layers of the nasty salve.
I can then sit back and enjoy the consequences. Those first moments when there is no pain, and regardless of past experiences, he still hopes nothing will happen. Then after a few minutes, the first signs of discomfort as the burning slowly creeps upon him, the fear appearing in his eyes; then the writhing commences……‘ So bitch-boy is in for a ‘very significant emotional event’ should he ever transgress badly, or should I wish to demonstrate my utterly pitiless sadistic streak to its maximum. (The problem for bitch-boy when I do behave so is that, despite the terrible nightmare he endures during the event; when it is all over; he is even more in awe of me. Poor submissives really have no hope of escaping either their suffering or their addiction to their Mistresses do they!)

I provide very detailed accounts of Nurse Nasty sessions in my published Journals, volumes 1, 3 and 11.

So interesting that I got three comments on yesterdays post and each comment mentioned the same thing. Using a condom after the application of the Linnex Stick to make the ‘burn’ more intense.

And one comment from Pat, who I must thank for her contributions, for the suggestion of experimenting with Capsaicin Cream which may ‘burn’ even more than the Linnex Stick!

While I am very grateful for these suggestions and will bank them in my ‘future ideas store’, I have to say, given I like to have escalation potential when dealing with a submissive, I currently have plenty of escalation potential with the Linnex Stick; given how small the area of application was in my experiment and how distressing bitch-boy found it. I know the threat of an identical application will have him begging with all his heart, (pleasurable for me but for him pointless), and still then, there is the escalation available.

• Covering a much, much greater area of the shaft,
• Applying it to the head of the penis,
• A second application, 40 minutes after the first,
• An application just before he is released from bondage to do colouring-in with his dollies, while it ‘burns’. And having to try to maintain a semblance of composure for his forced role play activity. (If he finds it impossible to maintain a semblance of composure and engage in muted, tranquil verbal exchanges with his dolly, then perhaps I will have him in silence, colouring-in, while padlocked into his pacifier strap.)

The first draft of my Manual is now finally complete! 110,000 words. Below is the short section in the Manual on Escalation Potential for those followers who do not know what that means.

Escalation potential is essential in a long term relationship because submissives learn to cope with things if the ‘things’ stay the same. For instance, early in the life of a submissive being dominated, a two minute bare hand spanking may be more than they think they can cope with. But after say, twenty such spankings, they will have learned, (at least subconsciously) that they do not break, that they quickly recover, that the discomfort is soon over; and a two minute bare hand spanking no longer meets the requirement of being more than they think they can cope with. So escalation is required. In this example the spanking must become of three minutes duration, or a hair brush is used instead of a bare hand.

Another reason escalation potential is critical is so that a SERIOUS punishment can be delivered if the submissive has committed a serious infraction and the dominant who needs to convey a considerable deterrent; needs to make a statement.

A third reason escalation potential is important is that it is critical to be able to provide an intensely emotional event from time to time. Intensely emotional for both the submissive and the dominant. Now and again, I will push one of my submissives well past what they think they can cope with. A LONG, LONG WAY PAST! The result of this level of cruelty is usually very considerable arousal for me and, once the event is over, the submissive holds me in awe and feels a compelling need to worship me. Perfect symbiosis. And they probably sleep more soundly than ever in submissive contentment.

If all torments and punishments are at the maximum, there is nowhere to go to deal with a really serious infraction. In addition, the opportunities are reduced to have a submissive beg with all their heart repeatedly as the dominant, just for fun, moves up the escalation steps one step at a time, over a few hours or a day or two.

I came across a clip from the camp, dated, 1980 movie Flash Gordon recently. It reminded me of the BDSM bits of the film which hint that the director may have been seriously ‘in the know’.

The outfits and cruel face of Princess Aura.

And here is a clip of her momentarily leading her ‘pet males’ on leashes, among other things, (within the first 30 seconds of the clip).

Then we come to General Kala.

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Here is a clip of her whipping Princess Aura, among other things, (within the first one minute of the clip). So camp! In the film there is also a Lezdom scene of Dale Arden being erotically dressed against her will. I have to say that apart from the BDSM scenes the film is otherwise VERY BAD! But these BDSM scenes and moments, for a few seconds, really capture domination, sadism and submission.

A WARNING if you decide to purchase a copy. The scene of General Kala whipping Princess Aura has been removed from most versions, certainly those shown on UK TV.

I have committed to publishing my manual in March entitled: Gratifying Domination and Submissive Contentment: A Guidance Manual.

The cover is also likely to include words to the effect of the following text:

Not just guidance but a myriad of ideas, techniques and inspirations as well.

• For beginners and for the experienced.
• For submissives who want to persuade their partner to become a dominant.
• For partners of submissives who want to learn to adore dominating their partner.
• For dominants who want to maximise their satisfaction and ability to subjugate.
• Nailing that tricky balance between domination time and vanilla time.
• Applicable to every gender.

The point of this post is to seek advice from you, dear followers, on the issue of the manual being Applicable to every gender. That is any gender of dominant with any gender of submissive. So where might I publicise such a book? This blog is 95% Female Dominant -male submissive and 5% Lezdom. How to publicise to very other gender combination is my conundrum.

If you have read this far you deserve what I hope is a reward! Two excerpts from the draft manual.

EXCERT 1

 TOP TIP 3: DEALING WITH ACCIDENTS

If for instance, the dominant is on occasion clumsy and;

• pokes the submissive in the eye with the cane, or,
• is negligent and causes the submissive to become very, very cold when that was not the dominant’s intention, or,
• agonisingly pinches some skin with a buckle but did not intend to,

it is important to understand that the submissive is very unlikely to find that arousing. Quite the opposite. The submissive almost certainly wants to think of their dominant as perfect and flawless; so an accident or some negligence damages the image they want to hold of their dominant. However, accidents will happen, misjudgements will be made. A submissive already on emotional limits, when he or she is the subject of an accident or a misjudgement may react unfavourably – losing their submissiveness. When I have perpetrated a misjudgement or had an accident, I always use a phrase, with words to the effect of:

                ‘That was unfortunate slave; but these things will happen as I spend so much time dominating you. Accidents are an inevitability of my domination time of you. So you just have to accept these mishaps as best you can, don’t you.‘ Although I am simply bringing the truth of the matter to the situation, the phrase seems to right the wrong. So it should, as it IS the truth and also, I think, it causes the submissive to understand that I feel no shame or guilt at the extra, accidental, suffering I have caused. It is simply part of the price the submissive must pay for the privilege of being my submissive toy. The world is set to rights. Equilibrium is restored.

EXCERT 2

DASHING HOPES AND EXPECTATIONS (AND BREAKING PROMISES)

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Example 3

As a female dominant, two weeks into a month, you tell your slave that if they are really good all month, they will get to actually put their penis inside you and fuck you on the 1st day of the following month. On the 1st day of the following month, your slave is naked and you are naked apart from a pair of boots. You sit on the edge of the bed, thighs splayed wide apart and he kneels with the tip of his hard cock at the entrance to your cunt. His wrists are bound behind his back. You keep him there for a while, toying with his cock and then have him look into your eyes and you spit in his face, push him to the floor with the sole of your boot, and tell him you have changed your mind and he will not be enjoying penetration tonight, and possibly not ever again. You lean over him, resting a boot on his hip as you release his wrists and tell him to get his chastity device on and go and clean the toilet; and that you will be on the bed bringing yourself off while he does so.  

Is it the case that the blog host I use (WordPress) is less user friendly for blog followers than other hosts? I am wondering if the host: Blogger (BlogSpot) is a more user friendly host for visitors to a blog? Your views would be greatly appreciated.

My thanks to all those who responded to my last post, especially bob, john and furcissy. It was a superb response and very helpful. There were even some kind comments about the content of this blog thrown in. One outcome is I will be sticking with WordPress. (Or rather bitch-boy will. Obviously he does all the grunt work, updates, back-ups, etc. I just write.)

It seems I should move to the self hosted WordPress platform at WordPress.org. I will have to get bitch-boy to see if he can do that although I am very worried about using a new URL. I wonder if followers will ‘lose’ me if I do so?

Fluffy has advised that a mainstream 2012 short film (23mins) entitled The Chauffeur has quality femdom content. I found two YouTube trailers 1. YouTube trailer 2. It has a very high IMDB quality rating of 8.5. But I cannot find the film in the UK.

Anyone know how to access the film in the UK?

Thank you all for the many responses on yesterdays post about this short film. I am afraid I will never sign up to Amazon Prime as I avoid using Amazon except as a last resort because they do not pay their taxes.

I will think about the Vimeo option but I do prefer copies I can keep. Thank you all again.

I once heard of a dominant air hostess who secured an arrangement with a single submissive male in each city in which she was likely to spend an overnight stop-over. Prearranged – when in a city on a stop-over night, she would spend the night at the submissive’s abode in that particular city. She would be treated like a queen, waited on hand and foot, indulge in some abuse of the male and leave in the morning. Her benefits also included that she got to keep all of her very generous overnight allowance from her airline as bed and board were all provided by the lucky submissive. No need to spend money on food or hotel. She even charged the more wealthy submissives for the privilege of putting her up. Some of the males booked a hotel room by the airport for the night to serve her and suffer her whims. Why have I posted this?

Well looking at the stats for my blog for 2016, I find my blog was visited from 157 different countries! (Also that there were over 1 million views.) It is particularly amazing that in non-English speaking countries, the visits were from people who have English as a second language – and I guess a few from English speaker immigrants and tourists in those countries. I have been amazed that I sell a good number of my journals in India, but obviously language, culture and relative poverty are no barriers.

The most visits were from:

To give balance, from 32 countries there were less than 10 visits from each. Perhaps each visit accidental and never to be repeated.

I wonder if a good new specialist website would be just for contacts between dominant cabin crew and submissive people living near airports?

There is BDSM equipment NOT being made which I would adore to buy were it made. If I would adore to buy it, surely that means there is a market for this equipment. I have ended up having to make my own of some of the following. I would prefer to buy professionally made versions.

A leather hood to the following specification. Lace up at the back of the head and neck. No eye holes. Nostril holes. An internal cock gag, say two inches long with a wide breathing tube passing through the cock gag. Built in, sound reducing ear phones. A D-ring at the top of the hood.

A funnel gag. Most important is the dimensions of the funnel. The wide open section should allow for an ice chunk the size of a pack of cards and some spare capacity in addition. The narrow tube end should have a diameter the size of a flip chart marker pen. (This allows it to be in the mouth for hours without the mouth muscles cramping). The tube in the mouth should have holes in the sides, as well as the open end at the bottom, so it cannot be blocked by pressure from the tongue. A strap long enough to go around a posture collar.

Body stain. Body stain/paint which does not rub off onto other skin or fabrics. It would be OK if it took several days to fade away. Some bright colours like cherry red, lime green, orange and sky blue; and a black. (I have tried a face paint recently but it rubbed off onto other skin – like my hands!) I have yet to try Henna (but I already know Henna will not be bright enough) and yet to try liquid latex but it seems it will flake (when a cock or nipple undergoes cycles of erecting then shrinking.)

My blog followers will know from photos and many of my detailed journal entries from volume 6 onward that I use the first two items very frequently  for hours at a time! I would pay top-dollar.

                   MORE PHOTOES HERE

Following from my last post:

Cruellest Empress has suggested it is possible to purchase intravenous drip (IV) bags which can be filled with a fluid of choice and have the drip frequency finely controlled. Then fresh nectar can be dripped over a very long duration into a funnel gag, or a mouth held open by a Jennings gag, while the submissive is in sensory deprivation bondage. Several years ago  I briefly looked for such an IV system but could not find one for sale in the UK. So ice chunks got invented. I will look again for such an IV system.

Why are no BDSM producers supplying a full sized adult potty in the design of an infant’s potty? I have an adult potty from a hospital supplies store but it is plain white plastic and so flattened in shape, when bitch-boy is forced to use it, (like a parody of a little girl in front of myself and a guest or two), his little clitty hangs into the urine! Of course his shame is immense as he is laughed at, but his shame would be 100 fold more if the potty was in pretty pink and adorned with flowers or bunnies or fairies and much higher, shaped like an infants potty. I think the worldwide demand would be huge. In volume 10 of my published journals I recount an event when he had to perform in front of Governess Lexi and I. He died of shame like he always does when forced to perform ‘tinkles on her potty’. (It crops up in Volume 11 too).

One chapter of my manual, (to be published next month), deals with the best way to introduce that you are submissive to a vanilla significant other – with the aim of seducing them into become a long term satisfied dominant. The right things to do and the ABSOLUTELY wrong things to do. A small part of that overall strategy is about useful DVDs to watch together, and useful novels for them to read, which might prompt introductory discussion on the topic. When it comes to novels, I have to say I can suggest none at this point that are really appropriate. To quote from my draft manual:

‘ ……Do not give your partner a BDSM book or DVD or show them a BDSM website featuring extreme and bizarre lifestyles and behaviours. This is lazy, insensitive and crass. (What you might consider mild and harmless, they might consider perverted and horrifying.) It is not being brave and throwing your secrets on their mercy. It is lazy, insensitive and crass…………………………………………………. There are also books to avoid. Venus in Furs by Sacher Masoch is probably unhelpful because it has no artistic merit ………………… Owning and Training a Male Slave by Ingrid Bellemare has something to offer but is not suitable as an introduction for a wholly vanilla person; it is too extreme. …………………….. Equally, The Story of O, both book and film versions, are probably too extreme and somewhat misleading on the psychology issue. (The Story of O is about female submissives dominated mostly by males and a little by females. )‘

So my question, dear followers is; do you know of any books that would make a good introduction to the dominant and submissive lifestyle THAT WOULD NOT HORRIFY A COMPLETELY VANILLA PERSON!

I am considering writing a novel, perhaps one volume of two or three short stories, written with the sole aim and purpose of being a non-scary book a wholly vanilla person could read which would then prompt useful conversation on the topic. An ice-breaker? Is this too manipulative? I think not if the result is a contented submissive and gratified new dominant, and the closest relationship its possible to have.

I am thinking of three short stories so it is in keeping with  the gender-free applicability of the manual. One short story on a sub male with a female partner, one on a sub female with a male partner and one on a sub female with a female partner. (I am not sure I am up to writing realistic fiction on a sub male with a male partner, although a male pair will still find my manual useful I believe.)

A few followers suggested I purchase a domain (URL) to ensure my blog does not just disappear because I upset WordPress with my content and they delete the blog.  I did plan to do this but it has been pointed out to me that if I do so, anyone using the Netim.com Whois-search facility could find my name and home address. Is there a way around this?

Thank you so much to all 20 blog followers who provided information and advice on my last blog post. It is wonderful to have this helpful resource of knowledgeable people. I will in due course change my URL and protect my blog from an instant deletion.

Thank you again

Two events are coinciding. I am giving up work in a few weeks and bitch-boy is getting very close to actually finishing the first of his seven identical fairy colouring-in books. It must have taken him many, many hundreds of hours. (I wish I had kept a note but it would have been too onerous to bother with.) You may recall in Xmas 2013 I bought him six identical copies of The Girls Fairy Colouring Book of which he already had one copy. 64 pages and it takes forever to colour-in one page! And of course going over a line results in a caning. And, in the early days, an inadequate and drab number of colours on a completed page resulted in a very severe caning -that he has not forgotten.

As desolate as it makes him, he is in no doubt that he has years and years ahead of him, and I imagine, thousands of hours, dressed as a little girl, colouring-in with the help of his dolly Suzette Simperkins. THE SAME  little girl, fairy themed pages, AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN, book after book, while I and any guests enjoy grown-up pursuits and virtually ignoring him. It is hard to explain how simultaneously I find it both utterly relaxing and a huge, arousing power-rush as I sit on the sofa watching TV, or reading or on the phone or working on one of the crafts I enjoy, while he is almost ignored as he colours-in and periodically shamefully enters into a verbal exchange with his dolly asking which colour he should use for the next item to be coloured-in.

So I have been thinking about the two events coinciding imminently and how to handle the moment of the finishing of the colouring-in of the first book. I have decided on the following: When he is close to finishing the very last page, I will have by my side, the other six books.  When, no doubt, full of trepidation he lisps to me that he has finished the last page, I am going to take the completed book for inspection of the last page and at the same instant, as though all is normal, pass him another identical book from the pile of 6, open it at a double page, and without even looking at him say,

‘Start this one.‘ I know this act, given it confirms the absolute reality of my long term threats, might reduce him to sobbing or pleading; which if it does I will ignore. After around five minutes of him settling down to colour-in I will say, in a very matter of fact tone,

‘Just think pansy-piece. I will be at home all day from now on and you will be colouring-in for so many hours, so many days, each week. So, so many hours. This is your life now my humiliated sissy little girl and there is nothing you can do about it.‘

 [Very detailed accounts of his frequent times forced to role play a parody of a little girl are included in my published journals, volumes 2  to 11.]

I came across these two videos recently. I do love to see nettles being swept over a hard penis while the belly, thighs, etc. are protected, so all the stinging takes place exactly where it should. The first video also includes high heeled boots squashing a cock against a sold surface. Another favourite of mine. The contrast of vulnerable flesh and implacable footwear is wonderful.

LINK 1 (from 5 minutes onward)

LINK 2 (from 1 minute onward)

Hopefully its only about five weeks now and the fresh nettle stems will be sprouting from the ground. The leaves of spring are the most stinging and the stings last for four or more hours. Even at just four inches tall, the stems will have little leaves that will be just fine to fill a sunglasses pouch.

I will have to wait until stems are about twelve inches tall before they can be used in conjunction with the nettles blanket.

[Almost all of my published journals from Volume 1 onward include detailed accounts of my use of stinging nettles.]